Yoga Philosophy

The Guru’s Light: Remembering Sharath Jois

November 18, 2024
vande gurūnām...

vande gurūnām caranāravinde….

I got the news of Sharath’s passing early morning on a Tuesday.  In this age of AI and fake news I thought it was fake news.  But as the truth settled in, so did an unexpected and profound sense of loss.  Even though I had only met Sharath in passing (during my brief brush with Ashtanga Yoga in Mysore), I feel strangely bereft, as though the loss was personal.

I’ve followed the Ashtanga lineage closely and have drawn inspiration from countless teachers within it.  I have many friends who are devoted to the Ashtanga yoga practice.  As practitioners we never think of teachers as human, bound by the same mortality that binds us all.  The passing of legends is a vivid reminder of life’s impermanence.  As history shifts and the ground beneath our feet starts to shake – I find myself asking how I want to step into the future.

Yoga is a practice where teachers and gurus play a central role.  Sharath’s passing has forced many to contemplate on the figure of the guru.  What is a guru?  What does it mean to have a guru? Does the head of a lineage I follow become my guru?  Can my guru be someone I’ve never met?  Many of us are blessed to have beacons of light in our lives, but only truly value them when their presence becomes a memory.  Others remain on an eternal quest, busy doubting the teacher, oblivious to the answers right before them.

Sharath Jois was a phenomenal teacher, one of the most powerful of the 21st century.  He was an example – finding joy in life and yoga amidst the ups and downs.  He touched countless lives, including those he had never met.  I never learned asana from him, but I learned so much yoga.

But that’s the thing about yoga legends.  Their purpose transcends asanas.  The exist to connect you, unite you and bring you peace.  And maybe that’s why with Sharath’s passing, I feel bereft of a teacher, even though I never studied with him….

Sharath Jois was more than a teacher; he was a beacon. His presence, his practice, and his joy in both yoga and life were transformative. He touched countless lives, including those he never met—mine among them. I never learned asana from him, but I learned so much yoga.

And that’s the thing about true yoga teachers. Their purpose transcends the postures. They exist to unite us, to help us find peace within ourselves and the world around us. That’s why, even though I never studied directly under Sharath, I feel the emptiness of his absence as if I had.

I revisited a conference recording from 2015.  Listening to it again transports me back to those 15 transformative days in Mysore.  It almost brings Sharath back to life again.  But I guess Sharath doesn’t need to be brought back to life.  He lives on in his students and in their yoga.

 

Travels

Colonial Echoes and Gelato Flavors: Mysore’s Hidden Charms

September 2, 2024
The Metropole Hotel in Mysore has interesting nooks that make for great reading corners.

Our recent holiday to Mysore had a hint of colonial charm and was peppered with interesting flavors of gelato…

I believe there’s a difference between traveling and holidaying, and both are mutually exclusive.  When I travel I see, observe, learn and do.  When I holiday I assimilate.  On our recent visit to Mysore, I found myself appreciating its tranquil charm in a way I hadn’t before. The broad, tree-lined avenues, the elegant colonial architecture, and the notable absence of towering buildings and construction sites transported me to a bygone era.  I could almost picture a white Ambassador “speeding” importantly down the road…

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Travels

2 Days in Bangalore (Beyond MG Road)

August 25, 2024
I love this picture of St. Mark's Cathedral from Cubbon Park, it really gives a sense of how large the park was once upon a time.

I love this picture of St. Mark’s Cathedral from Cubbon Park, it really gives a sense of how large the park was once upon a time.

Kalindi’s arrival has brought many good things into our lives, including dear friends who had lost touch over the years.  I guess the arrival of new life is about hope and optimism, something that everyone can relate to.

I’m in touch with some of my earliest yoga students.  Recently Louise and her daughters visited us in Bangalore.  I used to teach Louise in Wellington, and reading this blog that she wrote about my classes back then made me nostalgic.  It’s been about 12 years since we last met!

What do you do with friends who’re coming to Bangalore for the first time?  I mean there’s only so much coffee you can drink as you marvel at the great weather.  I’ve lived in Bangalore since 2005, and pride myself in knowing a bit more about the city than the average resident.  So I took it on as a challenge and asked myself how I can showcase my city beyond MG Road.

So we had one of those slow weekends, the kind where you can slow down and fall in love with Bangalore all over again.  This is how you can make the most of 2 days in Bangalore…

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Pregnancy/Parenting Notes

What I Wish for My Daughter on This Independence Day

August 15, 2024
Kalindi and I on her first Independence Day.

Kalindi and me on her first Independence Day – India’s 78th.

While I was pregnant my husband got me a notebook that has writing prompts for letters to our unborn child.  A time capsule of sorts, to be given to the child on their 18th birthday.  The other day the prompt was “My wishes for you are…”.

As a woman living in one of the fastest developing nation, I straddle the delicate balance between the haves and the have nots.  I often wonder about independence.  For most women in India today, to be independent is to be financially independent.  But over the years I’ve noticed that making your own money is worth nothing if you don’t have the freedom to spend it.  Thus, independence for a privileged woman in a developing nation, is a nuanced concept.  Privilege itself is a nuanced concept.

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Postpartum Pregnancy/Parenting Notes

Exercising After a Cesarean Delivery – 4 Things to Remember

August 4, 2024
new haircut

I’m five months postpartum and this past week I fit into my old low-waisted skinny jeans.  I’ve written about honouring the first forty days and the importance of postpartum repletion.  I believe that’s something every woman who has given birth should do, regardless of c-sec or normal delivery.

After those forty days I was eager to quickly get back into my ‘usual’ routine.  I was being inundated with old wives’ tales about exercising after a cesarean  – such as not walking too fast or bending forward for an entire year, and even the myth about the chronic pain after an epidural.  So, as usual, I did some research.

I believe the following four guidelines optimised my recovery.

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Asana Pregnancy/Parenting Notes Yoga

Conception to Postpartum in a Series of Weekend Yoga Workshops

July 16, 2024
I've taken this picture so many times at Bellur, and never thought one day I'd be posing with my daughter.

I’ve taken this picture so many times at Bellur, and never thought one day I’d be posing with my daughter.

I spent the past weekend in yoga workshop with Murlidhar sir, a yoga teacher who played an instrumental role in my pregnancy journey, from conception to postpartum.  This blog was supposed to be about taking a 3.5 month old to a yoga retreat.  But as I wrote it, it became a game of connect the dots.  It turned into a blog about how I attended a weekend yoga retreat in 2019 and met an impressive but little known yoga teacher who would one day have a profound impact on my life.

My journey has been nothing but magical or, as my gynaecologist would say, ‘a miracle’.

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Postpartum Pregnancy/Parenting Notes

9 Things New Moms Should Stop Feeling Guilty About

June 28, 2024
Luxuriating in the water while my baby sleeps.

Pregnancy is often projected as a glow-y, rosy time.  Very little is written about postpartum.  Pregnancy is a time when everyone is extra careful and kind to the expectant mother.  This often changes very quickly post delivery.  For me it was as though within only a couple of hours reality changed beyond recognition.  Sudden it’s all about the baby, and as the mother you’re at the receiving end of unsolicited advice and stifling opinions.  With the fireworks of hormones that’s going on in your system, most women I know (including me), have found this time stressful and difficult, compounded by feelings of mom guilt.

The best advice I received when I was pregnant was to maintain balance.  To not let the baby consume everything, including me.

But new mom-guilt is real, and not something we can wish away easily.  But, there are certain things I feel we should stop feeling guilty about.

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Newborn Pregnancy/Parenting Notes Travels

5 Tips for Traveling With a Newborn

June 18, 2024

Enjoying a ride in a vintage Ambassador in Hampi.

Traveling with a newborn is an adventure.  When I fell pregnant our friends told us to travel in the first three months of the baby’s life.  They stay exactly where you left them and as long as they are fed, clean and rested – things are good.  While I agree with this, it’s not so simple.  A crying baby in the car, dirty diapers, bored baby….how do you manage all this and still enjoy the trip?

We’ve been on two trips with Kalindi (so far).  Both trips were between 2-4 nights long.  We planned these holidays such that we would have family time interspersed with some sightseeing.  Which brings me to my first tip.

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Books Postpartum Pregnancy/Parenting Notes

My Postnatal Repletion

June 5, 2024
Many women swear by ajwain water and silver glasses. It tastes good!

Many women swear by ajwain water and silver glasses. It tastes good!

The strangeness of postpartum isn’t written about enough.  There are few books about the state of new motherhood.  It’s as though the mother is pushed into oblivion by mountains of dirty diapers and midnight feedings.  No one talks about learning to inhabit the postnatal body and mind.  A mind that is usually bewildered.  A body whose contours are unfamiliar.  A depleted body.  In need of postnatal repletion.

I recently read ‘The Postnatal Depletion Cure‘ by Dr. Oscar Serrallach.  In it he describes postnatal depletion, and validates the millions of women struggling to find themselves postpartum.  Postpartum depletion comprises all the symptoms a woman experiences post delivery, such as the change in sleep cycle, the psychological strain and the emotional disturbances, social isolation and the hormonal changes.  He argues that the postnatal body is nutritionally depleted, especially if the mother is breastfeeding.  This depletion combined with a lack of sleep and the expectation that a woman seamlessly slip into her new role contribute to women experiencing long-term health problems even years after birthing their babies.  He suggests post delivery women focus on postnatal repletion.

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Newborn Postpartum Pregnancy/Parenting Notes

My First Mother’s Day

May 12, 2024

It’s 8 pm and it’s the first time I’ve sat down today. By the time I publish this blog it might be after midnight.

I have been planning my first mother’s day for the last week. I washed my hair and chose an outfit. I googled the Water Monkey Cafe and imagined having coffee and a chocolate muffin with the Bangalore rains in the background. Maybe even taking some Instagram worthy photos with my munchkin.

This morning I finished packing for our first trip with Kalindi. I spent a few hours going through Kalindi’s clothes so that she’s nice and cozy in Coorg. I’d contemplated swim diapers, then decided a chlorinated pool was too risky for a one and a half month old. I imagined two restful days with Kalindi and Animesh in the verdant Coorgi hills with its crisp, inviting weather. Continue Reading